The end of the school holidays can stir up mixed feelings for both children and parents. Some children can’t wait to get back to their friends, while others quietly dread the thought of lessons and routines starting again. Parents often notice this same tension in themselves: a sense of relief at the return of structure, alongside concern about how their child will settle back in.
Supporting your child’s wellbeing at this stage is just as important as sharpening pencils and packing the school bag. A calm, confident mindset helps children make the most of their education and enjoy school life more fully.
Spotting signs of worry
Many parents tell us they notice changes in their child’s behaviour before the start of term, sometimes subtle and at other times obvious. It might be disrupted sleep, a sudden reluctance to talk about school or even flashes of irritability. Some children become very quiet, almost withdrawing into themselves.
It’s not unusual for children to struggle to put their worries into words. That’s why gentle, open conversations can make such a difference. Questions like “What are you most looking forward to this term?” or “Is there anything that feels tricky about going back to school?” can create space for them to share without pressure.
Routines bring reassurance
Parents often notice that one of the biggest hurdles after the school holidays is simply re-establishing routine. Late nights and leisurely mornings make way for early alarms and packed schedules and for some children, that’s the hardest part of all.
Many families find that easing back into routine gradually, rather than overnight, makes the transition smoother. A few days before term, try introducing earlier bedtimes, regular mealtimes or even a short “study slot” of reading or writing. Children often feel reassured by this gentle rhythm, and it makes the return to school less of a shock to the system for everyone.
Balancing academics and wellbeing
It’s natural for parents to focus on academics as the new term approaches; after all, no one wants their child to feel behind. But it’s important to remember that wellbeing and learning go hand in hand. A child who feels calm and supported is far more ready to absorb new material than one weighed down by anxiety.
Some children worry most about subjects they found difficult in the past. Parents tell us this is where reassurance and extra support can really make a difference. A bit of one-to-one guidance can stop children from carrying last year’s struggles into the new term.
Building confidence step by step
Confidence rarely arrives all at once. Parents often describe it as something that builds in small steps and slips back occasionally, too. Encourage your child to set simple goals for the term, such as joining in more during class discussions or finishing homework on time. Celebrate those moments of progress, however small they seem.
It helps to remind children that finding some things difficult is not a failure, it’s part of learning. It’s common for parents to notice that when their child feels free to make mistakes, school becomes a place of growth rather than stress.
Keeping communication open
Many families find that the after-school chat can be the trickiest part of the day. Ask “How was your day?” and the reply is almost always “Fine.” Different kinds of questions can open the door more effectively, such as:
- What made you laugh today?
- Was there something you enjoyed learning?
- Did anything feel tricky that you’d like to talk about?
These small check-ins show children that you value both the good moments and the challenges of their day.
The role of tutoring in supporting wellbeing
Progress in tutoring isn’t only measured in scores; it’s seen in confidence and curiosity too. Parents tell us that regular one-to-one support often reduces stress, builds stability and gives children a safe space to ask questions they might not raise in class.
At Dukes Tutoring, our tutors know that encouragement is just as important as subject knowledge. Sessions move at your child’s pace, which can make the return to school feel less overwhelming and more manageable. Beyond academic progress, one of the biggest changes families notice is the rise in self-belief.
Encouraging balance beyond the classroom
Wellbeing isn’t built on schoolwork alone. Parents know instinctively that children need balance, whether that’s taking time for sport, music, art or simply playing outside. Many tell us that these outlets keep their child calmer, more focused and happier during the school week.
Allowing space for rest and hobbies shows children that school is only one part of their lives, not the whole picture. That balance often helps them return to class with more energy and positivity.
When to seek extra support
All children wobble from time to time, but if you notice ongoing signs of anxiety, don’t brush them off. Trust your instincts here. Speaking to teachers, pastoral staff or external professionals can provide the right support before problems become overwhelming.
Sometimes, even when routines are in place, children can still feel unsettled. They may need extra encouragement or different strategies to regain their focus. For some, tailored guidance alongside school makes a real difference, which is where our one-to-one tutoring programmes can provide the right balance of support and challenge.
Helping your child start the term strong
Returning to school is a transition that presents both challenges and significant opportunities. Parents who blend routine with sensitivity and learning with emotional support often find that their children settle more quickly and thrive in the months ahead.
If you sense your child is worried or finding things difficult, don’t wait for problems to grow. The right support, introduced early, can make all the difference, turning anxiety into confidence and helping them enjoy learning again.
At Dukes Tutoring, our focus is not just on academics but on nurturing confidence and resilience, so children feel ready to face the term with calm and self-belief.
Give your child the best start this term. Contact Dukes Tutoring on 020 3488 0754 or complete our contact form to explore how we can support your child’s learning and wellbeing.
